I was talking about the different issue: medically fetish is the situation when you are attracted to something else than a human being.
A normal man is *supposed* to be attracted to a woman as a whole, not to some kinds of features or items.
This causes problems in relationships because people do not get aroused just from seeing each other but they require something different as for example you may only get aroused if your girlfriend is wearing panties and you focus your attention on those panties but kinda ignore her herself. Or he may focus on her feet, breast some kind of other body features. If that happens, she will very likely get upset since women want to be the center of attention.
Medically philia is not just an attraction to something but the fixation on that thing exclusively. So someone who likes both children and adult women is not a pedophile, but a person who is exclusively attracted to children and shows no interest in adult women is a pedophile.
Generally, the same rule applies to all psychiatry all disorders are extreme expressions of some single issue which consumes entire personality. So psychologist is not supposed to take away that issue from his client (or there will be nothing left), but to add more interests.
Even if your "love maps" start developing in your childhood brain is pretty flexible here and you will almost definitely develop new interests over time even as an adult (or lose old ones). We can observe this happening all around when new kind of things get introduced and become pretty popular. As for example anal and vaginal prolapse which was totally nonexistent 10 years ago and now almost every respectable porn star does that.
Just recently pussy hair was kinda the main feature (as that hair itself was the erotic thing) and all porn stars were over 30 but now mainstream turned into fetish itself.
So either way the solution is to develop new interests and not to try to get rid of the only thing you have without any replacement