You're asking to get catfished, anon.
Theres plenty of girls in the guro community. Going in f-list and setting up an account there could get you started talking to guro girls if you like role play
As for catfish, life is better if you just let people be whatever they say they are. Obviously dont offer up money or undying love to anyone who you dont know well.
Going on fetlife is fine to. Not everyone calls it guro. But many girls have hard kinks and very clearly give off a guro vibe.
Just make your profiles pretty, advertise yourself well, and don't ask selfishly for other people to date, rp, or send you nudes. Try and think of what the other person is gaining from you or what they might like to talk about.
>>8871>Theres plenty of girls in the guro community
That may be true, but what op is requesting wouldn't work. Only catfish, those in it for the money, and attention whores go out of their way to advertise they're a girl, especially a "maniac girl" or something like that(gamer gurl). I'd bet money that a service like that wouldn't appeal to the vast majority of girls, regardless of their fetishes.
Or, and hear me out,
They're presenting as female, becsyse they're female, and cover their profiles in cute shit, because they like cute shit.
I know plenty of girls in the guro community that present as girls.
I'm not saying a guro website with a female button is a great idea, but girls presenting as girls can just be taken at face value. Just dont jump into a relationship with anyone you dont j how well enough to be sure about.
This is not gonna work
even if you have such button and even if you ignore the fact that 50% of girls are actually guys playing girls. the worst of all is that 50% of those remaining girls will be pretty hostile towards guys and if she is actually responding nice that is probably a guy.
The main problem is big imbalance between number of available girls and guys and also severe mismatch of their interest.
If you don't mind anonymous dating you can try F-list but it does not allow any real life information sharing and you can get banned. Most people will not share any information either way unless they are guys. (and that's actually good, because real girls happen to be not that good looking as their profile pictures ) either way your girlfriend will be living on the other side of the globe so meeting her will be next to impossible.>>8876
Not necessary so.
situation goes like this:
you register on some website as a guy, try to approach some good looking girls they send you go fuck yourself. then you create super attractive female profile and approach girls as lesbian or pretend to be a girl when interacting with guys as kind of role play.
In fact everyone is practically required to have male and female profile or even several of them just for scientific purposes as to get an idea how does it feel being opposite gender and learn how to interact with them.
Being yourself online is not that good idea, because very often people will be hostile or ignore you because you have wrong gender. but they will be pretty nice to you if you have right gender.
Well, by the button I mean the option they have in some of the social networks(group users- sort by: country, age, sex, etc). While many "female" accounts are fake, it's still pretty easy to find "real" ones. But the problem is: on "normal" forums, the percentage of the girls I look for isn't large, they give almost zero clues,and I'm pretty sociopbobic (and picky)to just go and date random girls, to try coax out information about their fetishes and interests, and without dating- a sadistic girl, who prefers to hide her sadism, will she just tell about it to some random guy asking? Nah.
Now, many people here (and on the other forums) advised to go on RP forums, but the thing is: RP is not enough for me. I listened to the advice, I tried it, it was good once, but except for beating the willy, there's not much satisfaction in it (and, anyway, my dreams are much more satisfactory- if I could get dreams more often), e.e. I prefer "a real" person, whom, if we really like each other, I'm ready to go and meet on the other side of the world.
If you are picky, you can forget about it LOL Reality is way way worse than fantasy in all aspects so you will never find a girl you want. Just give up on that idea. The very best you can find is the girlfriend who actually loves you and finding the girlfriend who also has same sexual perversions as you is like winning lottery twice
If you want to meet real girls and willing to travel to other side of the world just go to some fetish club and there it will be pretty similar to role play site.
Also percentage of sexually sadistic girls who are actually interested in sexual sadism instead of just turning you into wage slave cash machine is very low. If you just want a girl that will treat you like shit on the daily life you can just date random girls. Most of them are like that LOL
There are definitely women who are into this, but meeting them in real life is basically impossible. Can't say I blame them given the subject matter.
I've met 3 in real life and it could be more but like, why would I need it to be?
It required being sensitive, patient, kind, and extremely candid. And anyone who doesnt desire and respect those things is not worth meeting with
Because if were both into guro and were not being candid about our interests, one of us could die, or be for real tortured instead of hot tortured.
It happened roleplaying with someone daily for several months, asking them how their day was and telling them about mine a little whenever it felt like a casual and warm environment would be nice. Im also the kind of person people feel they can tell anything. One of the girls wasnt into guro when I met her in an online game but became about it after falling… for me… that's a long story (hi if you're reading cotton ball)
Anyway. It's a long con to meet girls but if you approach life with no expectations and focus on doing what you enjoy, and meeting people while doing it, they will come.
I'm not picky in the "I don't like how you stared at me three years ago" way, but in a "I can't date random girls" way. >other stuff you wrote
Now, that makes me really sad.>Also percentage of sexually sadistic girls who are actually interested in sexual sadism instead of just turning you into wage slave cash machine is very low. If you just want a girl that will treat you like shit on the daily life you can just date random girls. Most of them are like that LOL
Yeah, that's an aspect I sometimes forget (or just ignore the uncomfortable truth) to take in consideration, and instead, just presume that all of the sadist girls look for sadist guys.
>>8892>i've met 3 in real life
And how did you come to know about their (except the one who wasn't into it) sadistic interests? Is there some way to detect such girls?
>>8895>>I'm not picky in the "I don't like how you stared at me three years ago" way, but in a "I can't date random girls" way.
I thought your pickiness is like usual, as you want that girl to satisfy certain standards like being certain age and beauty level. or you may be a bit disappointed when your cute role play loli will be a middle aged land whale in the real life.
As for not dating random girls i don't understand that problem. Dating is just getting together and talking about stuff you like. The biggest problems is not dating but actually meeting some girls who may have some potential for relationship.
Anyway if you do not want to give up on all hope you can still go back to role playing and gently try to push your partners into conversations about personal life
you may just get as lucky as Reg >>8892
from my own experience I also could confirm that it may be possible to end with real life meeting but also very likely when you mention something like that your online relation will end and you will be blocked even if it was looking all great.>>8892>>It happened role playing with someone daily for several months
So you did not meet them in the real life after all ;)
You just managed to get a good catch online and it still took horribly long time just for one girl. And from what you say it is more like masochistic than sadistic girls.
>I thought your pickiness is like usual, as you want that girl to satisfy certain standards like being certain age and beauty level. or you may be a bit disappointed when your cute role play loli will be a middle aged land whale in the real life.
Well, that's not pickiness, more of a "normal approach".
>As for not dating random girls i don't understand that problem. Dating is just
Well, I'm sociophobic. Or, more correctly, just don't care to go public. So I don't meet many girls anyway.Also, I can't date girls I don't love. And, considering that my "love of the physical body" is occupied for like…a decade now, for a girl to be able to become loved by me and replace the previous unwanted love, she has to be also special in a psychical way- e.e. be a hardcore sadist-maniac. And I can't just know if she's a maniac by looking at her. Often, the most cruel-looking girls are the most, dunno what's the word…humane? good? kind? but sadist girls can be "kind" too..
>Anyway if you do not want to give up on all hope you can still go back to role playing and gently try to push your partners into conversations about personal life
you may just get as lucky as Reg
Yeah, it seems that it's the only option. I'll also try creating "looking for a sadist gf, pm me now" threads in some of the guroforums, but, probably, I would get banned/catfished/trolled/downvoted and collapsed.
Oh, and fogot the mention. If you are from America,you should know that in Europe, the dating culture is not the same. E.e. if you date smbdy- you must be at least a bit serious and looking for some relations.
>>8904>Well, that's not pickiness, more of a "normal approach". depends on how high are your standards. but generally most real people do not look that good especially those with high sex drive.
>>Yeah, it seems that it's the only option. I'll also try creating "looking for a sadist gf, pm me now" threads in some of the guroforums, but, probably, I would get
This is a bad idea. You wont get girlfriend by request you need to get along because of some other reason which later grows into relationship. It is more or less like Reg who found them because of some other shared interest.
If you tell that straight way, girls will be judging you by your looks money and other stuff, but if you pretend not to look for relationship they fall in love and then nothing else matters anymore.
>>And I can't just know if she's a maniac by looking at her. Often, the most cruel-looking girls are the most, dunno what's the word…humane? good? kind? but sadist girls can be "kind" too..
Well, actually you can predict that from her behavior and maybe from her past life.
maniac are usually people who were somehow repressed and strange. So you should look for abnormal girls who are lonely do not have much of social life just like you.
>Oh, and fogot the mention. If you are from America,you should know that in Europe, the dating culture is not the same. E.e. if you date smbdy- you must be at least a bit serious and looking for some relations.
I am from Europe. but I woud not say that there are any more requirement for serious relationship just that most girls and people whom I meet online in English forums are from USA. you need to be on the local language forums to meet local people but if you live in some Bulgaria or Estonia with population less than London city you will not find any local forums. Where I live There is not even any meetup groups available any closer than 300km distance and even then choices are very limited.
Well first of all, no I met these girls. Theres two more I met in real life as well, one a mega sadist. She had cat ears. I said nekomimi she said furry and then we started talking about fetishes and never stopped and before we knew it we had spilled our art accounts to eachother.
Another had a sketchbook full of guro. Actually I've net plenty of girls with monster girl and horror themed sketchbooks and that's always a tell.
Theres a third I met irl never online who was just a college friend, eventually she told me she had some bloody porn she drew but she wasnt willing tonshare it, I was to afraid to tell her how interested I was so that didnt turn into anything.
Gonna recommend fetlife.com again. There, you can just make a profile about how much you wanna be slain. If you get no takers, tweak it to you do. Talk candidly on all it's different threads and forms. People will talk to you when they love your ideas, and when you love someones ideas, you'll have a reason to talk to them.
And as for how to meet show your interest? Well, the way a girl shows me that I can tall to her is:
Chains, collars, corsets
Cat ears or some other weeb paraphernalia that implies they arent interested in being normal
Love of corpse party, goblin slayer
TIME. Lots of people seem to have real deep kinks, but they're only gonna let those show to someone who they feel can ACCEPT them, and make them feel good and normal. They dont want do feel even more weird and even more anti social, and feel preyed on by others like them. You risk doing that if you're too up front.
Though I am constantly shouting my ethics about how cartoons are fine fantasy. There are lots of people raised Christian who like yaoi art and stuff, who inherently understand that fantasy is fantast because of that experience, so that's a good way to start talking about it if I feel I need a friend who understands.
But yeah, wear eye liner, wear a handcuff under your work clothes, and go out there and meet some people. It's a numbers game, if you know more people you know more guro fans. So weather its online or irl, once you put the time into your online persona, they'll start appearing.
And it helps to be you genuinely going for your interests and being noticed, or finding people who you like that are reaching got theirs. Or, understanding and appealing to what people want: a friend, a fuck buddy, or a person to date.
If you just want someone to appeal to your interests or bust, and you want to jump straight into knowing and enjoying them from the git, you're looking for a prostitute, or pornography.
Big one though:
I said online persona, but obviously you can work on your real life circle of friends or communication skills to.
All that said: I'm like a big old nerd, I still only write these in my morning commutes. Definitely take it with a grain of salt and if you're looking for more a one night stand kind of thing, I'm not the one to ask
okay so, first off i wanna preface this with my perspective here. i'm a mentally ill, traumatized, and generally messed trans gal. i have a lot of difficulty socializing, and i'm high-maintenance. i'm not gonna mention why i'm on here cause it's both obvious and ambiguous, but i felt it was important i give my take. generally, most people struggle with dating by rushing themselves into relationships or ignoring things that irk you, but in this case there's tons more at play. because of the fact that being into guro brings up themes of abuse, you're really a lot more likely to find that the people who you're into that share your fascination are probably going to have trauma or some sort of mental illness. by seeking a sadist/manic gf you need to be ready to seriously invest yourself into the relationship, because you'll need to establish trust, be able to cope with your partner's non-sexual needs, and make sure you're comfortable in putting yourself into potentially harmful or dangerous situations. i (discounting myself) know a pretty large number of girls that are into guro, so it's not like you're buying a lottery ticket, you just need to look in the right places and realize that these people don't put themselves out there because of anxiety/trauma/mental health/alienation/or lack of adequate spaces to socialize. i feel like i'm basically teaching a crash course in dating but like… if shit gets toxic, don't continue it and re-evaluate your relationship. take into mind you're generally going to have a much more intense relationship experience, AND MAKE SURE YOU CAN ADEQUATELY CARE FOR THEM. as for traits… eccentricity, a perceived superiority complex, a fascination with the morbid, aggressive behavior, niche interests, obscure music genres that can be generally described as somber (grindcore and crust are two obvious ones), manic behavior, etc.
i hoped this helped in any sort of meaningful way to you nerds. my excuse for being terrible at formatting and writing is hypographia. this is largely anecdotal.
>>9037>make sure you're comfortable in putting yourself into potentially harmful or dangerous situations
This is why I stopped dating people who share my kinks too closely. > 2 people who love intense psychological pain hook up > ends in intense psychological pain> surprisedpikachu.jpg
Best experience was trying for people who are at least 30° removed from me in terms of fetishes, so we can appreciate and accept each others' fantasies without getting too sucked into it…
Honestly that's not the worst of ideas.