>>11319>If you want to understand deeper meaning you have to see it from all perspectives and not just the perspectives of someone who chooses violence.
Don't worry I fully understand that deeper meaning and that is exactly why I say that it is a choice to be a victim.
Unless your father of bully is an invincible superman you can always defeat him. sure you may fail and you may be horribly hurt yourself but you still can try and succeed with pretty much high probability. You have enough time to make a good plan.
Here is one story tod By Jordan Peterson:
when he visited prison he met one very good innocent-looking inmate who was thin and otherwise pretty weak in comparison to other muscular baboons and also looked pretty intelligent. Could make a perfect victim for all those baboons. but he was regarded as the most dangerous inmate in the prison nobody dared to touch because one "nigger who" did something to him ended losing his leg when this innocent guy sneaked hin in the shower and bludgeoned one of his legs with the steel pipe until it turned into body pulp beyond any possibility of repair.
after that NONODY dared to touch that guy and he is most respected of all in that prison. Yes anyone can kill him easily, but they know that if he will stay alive the one who hurt him will likely die or lose some limbs. and will have to walk in fear for the rest of the life imagining that guy sneaking from behind.
Or another story where a woman smashed a knee of her abusive husband during one of their fights, and this changed their relationships forever.
I also had to deal with some bullies at school, and even while being to fight normally I almost bite off a finger for one of them and managed to put an arm of another into the cast, also I hit one in the balls for what I was brought to the chairman office and had to listen to a lecture how I could make the poor guy infertile for life.
Even when being about 5 when mom spanked me with the belt as revenge I destroyed all belts with scissors.
Yes if you are only 5 you may boot be able to defeat an adult because you are not even that smart, but at that age of 10-12 you are fully capable to deal with anyone.
The real reason why victims lose against bullies is that the one whose life is worse less will always win. Bullies are bullies because their life is worth nothing they have nothing to lose.
while victims usually have too much to lose to take a risk of fighting.
As yes you can easily defeat your abusive father or mother or husband and maybe even get away with that because they will not even file a report to the police
But if you break your father's husband's arms he will be unable to work for a month or maybe forever and then who will be paying all your bills EEh?
Another reason is that ok, you can show your bully their place. For example, you can handcuff your father while he is sleeping then hold him tied and helpless constantly abusing him to the moment when the though military guy will start sobbing like a baby begging you to forgive him for everything he did and then what? Now you are the master of the house all responsibilities are on you and you are not ready to take them.
The same situation with school bullies yes you can defeat them and it is not that hard, but you will have consequences, you will be expelled from school possibly put in jail or whatever else. because you cannot claim self-defence here you will be an obvious attacker who severely harmed an innocent person who did nothing wrong to you. From that moment you will be known as a psychopath and your bully will be a poor victim.
So yes it is not simple but nothing is simple. It does not change the fact that you chose to be a victim because of various reasons.
In the end life is the game of "chicken" the one who is ready to bet more wins unless no winner is left
victims are just people who are not willing to bet enough in this game.
Also, another reason is that when you are child you don't really know that much about things and you can make mistakes where you hurt those who rather should be your friends.
Now I always regret that I was trying to beat girls who were teasing me and did other stupid things being too selfish and inconsiderate simply because at that age I was just thinking about myself.
Maybe some of the bullies also could be my friends if I knew how to act properly at that time.